Steps To Upgrade A Situationship

Step One: Tell his wife.


I’m joking. I’m sorry to report that there is no upgrading a situationship. If he wanted a relationship with you, darling, he’d be in one with you. You willingly entered into this situation. Maybe at the time, you thought you could handle casual sex. Maybe you thought you’d show how amazing a woman you are and he’d snatch you up. Hope springs eternal, sweetie.

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I Write. I Heal.

“The most important things are the hardest to say. They are the things you get ashamed of, because words diminish them — words shrink things that seemed limitless when they were in your head to no more than living size when they’re brought out. But it’s more than that, isn’t it? The most important things lie too close to wherever your secret heart is buried, like landmarks to a treasure your enemies would love to steal away. And you may make revelations that cost you dearly only to have people look at you in a funny way, not understanding what you’ve said at all, or why you thought it was so important that you almost cried while you were saying it. That’s the worst, I think. When the secret stays locked within not for want of a teller but for want of an understanding ear.”   ― Stephen King

I didn’t want to write today because I am an emotional mess this morning. I’m honestly trying to tie myself together with the brute strength of my anger because if one tear falls, I’m dismantling and some shit just isn’t worth having to be rebuilt over. The positive thing about pain is that the more intense it is, the less energy one has to lie to themselves and others. Pain is honest. It overwhelms anything and everything else. Emotional pain becomes physical pain.  You’re gasping for breath; abs are hurting from heaving; head is aching. That pain demands release. You want to scream, punch through cement walls, cut yourself just to draw the pain somewhere else. What better time, then, to open Word and bleed all over the page?

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Stop Doing Wife Sh** For F**kboys (Guest Post)

(Nix Note: We have a guest post today from Amelia Nathlie. If you are interested in having a post featured, send an email to

There is a new breed of men out here in the dating word. These dudes aren’t looking to enhance your life in any way. They’re entering your life with one purpose, and one purpose ONLY: Looking for a come up! These dudes want you to chase them. And they try to put you on blast when you don’t pursue them.

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