Men Speak.

“But what does he mean?” How many times have you asked your friends or yourself that question? Something about your man’s behavior or words doesn’t add up, and you gotta figure this shit out. Is he finally ready to commit or is he still playing games? You believe his actions aren’t reconciling with reality when the truth usually is that the reality in your mind doesn’t reconcile with his actions. So we powwow with our friends over wine, dissect text messages, read relationship anecdotes online…any and everything to prove that you and he are heading toward a future together. You may even gather the courage to question him on his intentions, and instead of giving you a definite answer, he hems and haws, goes silent, or tells you he’s not looking for a relationship right now. And again you ask, “but what does he mean?”

I love you ladies so much that I have taken it upon myself to venture into the wolf’s den and go straight to the source. I decided to ask a few men in my life, whom I respectee, about a man’s behavior when he wants a future with a woman. Yes, I dared to try to obtain a straight answer from a man. And it turns out that it wasn’t difficult at all. I received some great responses. I’m sure you will appreciate their candor, and hopefully, it will help you evaluate the status of your current relationship. These men definitely have me putting mine under a microscope now.

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His Reward For A Job Well Done

I want to be his trophy.

I want to be that shiny brass he holds over his head. 

I want to be the gold medal he wears proudly.

I want to be his trophy. 

Why? 

He had the courage to speak truth to me, and I haven’t been able to extricate myself since.  Nor do I want to. He is that inspiration that I’ve been waiting on. He challenges me, stands toe to toe with me, points out my bullshit. Supports me but does not enable me.  Spoils me but does not bow to me. His voice is the first and the last I hear each day. He is my anchor, my endless supply of strength. My courage to go forth and risk knowing that he will not let me fall. His love is my truth.

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